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My Husband, My Best Friend

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Okay, can I just brag for a moment?  This June, we will celebrate nineteen years of marriage!  Whew!  Time flies.  It really does.  Has it all been wedded bliss?  Not hardly.  Our journey has been replete with ups and downs, joys and sorrows, victories and valleys…just like most.  

Our secret?  God has been at the center of our relationship from the very beginning, and, how we’ve relied on Him to see us through!  We would have failed miserably if we rested on our own strength, but thank God for His mercy.  His never ending grace has not forsaken us.

I am so thankful for my husband.  He is wise, kind, generous, loving, compassionate, intelligent, hard working and creative.  Whenever I have a problem, he tries to fix it.  When I’m sick, he prays for me and nurses me back to health.  When I’m discouraged, he speaks uplifting words.  When I try to take on the world, he urges restraint.  😉

He brings me flowers, sometimes for no reason at all.

Is he perfect? No, but he’s perfect for me!  God brought him from half way around the world just for me, and I am ever grateful for that!

When we’re apart, I’m looking forward to our reunion.  When we’re together, I am at peace.  He completes me and we complement one another.  He is my best friend.  I know I can confide in him.  He holds my deepest trust and I am secure in his love.

We’ve been through many difficult and challenging seasons together and our love is richer for it.  Young love is a many splendored thing, for sure.  However, mature love, love that has endured decades, has a depth that is gratifying and fulfilling like no other.

He loves to sing and we often enjoy singing together.  In the quiet times, his melodious voice soothes my soul.

My husband strives to do things that he knows will bring me happiness.  He really tries to please me…and I him.  That’s what love does.

Just to “keep it real” … When we’ve argued, he forgives me and I forgive him.  We don’t keep score.

Love doesn’t attempt to change what it cannot.  It accepts and keeps rolling on. I think that’s one of the greatest keys to a happy marriage.

He captured my heart twenty years ago and holds it still.

…Thanks for indulging me to brag on my husband for a minute.

What do you love most about your spouse?

“My beloved friends, let us continue to love each other since love comes from God. Everyone who loves is born of God and experiences a relationship with God. The person who refuses to love doesn’t know the first thing about God, because God is love—so you can’t know him if you don’t love. This is how God showed his love for us: God sent his only Son into the world so we might live through him. This is the kind of love we are talking about—not that we once upon a time loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to clear away our sins and the damage they’ve done to our relationship with God.

My dear, dear friends, if God loved us like this, we certainly ought to love each other. No one has seen God, ever. But if we love one another, God dwells deeply within us, and his love becomes complete in us—perfect love!” – I John 4:7-12 MSG

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Love is an Action Verb

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Greater love hath no neighbor than to have your driveway plowed after back to back snowstorms!

Our next door neighbor phoned this morning and offered to have our driveway cleared for us.  What a wonderful gesture, especially on Valentine’s Day!  We’ve helped him with some things since the passing of his wife last summer, and I know he wanted to show his gratitude.  We are immensely thankful for his thoughtfulness!

With all the focus on love today, I thought it’d be fun to compile a list of:

25 ways Love Can Be Demonstrated:

  1. Send a thoughtful letter.
  2. Call an elderly relative to let them know they’re not forgotten.
  3. Text your child. (It’s their “love language”, it seems)
  4. Visit someone who is ill.
  5. Make dinner for a new mom and her family.
  6. Bake cookies for a new neighbor. (or an old one)
  7. Pray for your pastor and church regularly.
  8. Compile a scrapbook for each child.
  9. Make your spouse’s favorite meal.
  10. Assist your spouse with a household project.
  11. Write your child a love note telling them how special they are.
  12. Give a small gift for no reason at all.
  13. Encourage a novice on paths you’ve already traveled.
  14. Listen.
  15. Prepare a will & sign it.
  16. Live within your means.
  17. Volunteer at a local charity.  It’s good for the soul.
  18. Give others your full attention (that means your eyes) when talking.
  19. Clean up a mess that isn’t yours.
  20. Bring your spouse morning coffee/tea in bed.
  21. Mentor a youth.
  22. Take your child on a lunch date.
  23. Choose positive words.
  24. Send a care package to a grown child/relative.
  25. Go for a walk with your spouse.

  Some of the above may seem trivial on face value.  However, there are many consequences that follow such small acts.  For, you see, life is made up of seemingly small things, small snippets of time that add up to a lifetime over the course of the years.  That is the great irony of life, isn’t it?  We wait for the big moments.  The birthdays.  The anniversaries.  The graduations.  And, they are wonderful occasions to show our love, but there are hundreds of other opportunities throughout any given year to demonstrate our devotion and affection to those around us.

Maybe you spotted an idea on the above list that spoke to you.  Or maybe you thought of another.  Perhaps today or next week, you could implement one idea.  What if we all took a little better care of our spouse, children, extended family, neighbors, church family?  Wouldn’t this world be a better place for it?

Love … not just for Valentine’s Day!  It’s for a lifetime.

“My beloved friends, let us continue to love each other since love comes from God. Everyone who loves is born of God and experiences a relationship with God. The person who refuses to love doesn’t know the first thing about God, because God is love—so you can’t know him if you don’t love. This is how God showed his love for us: God sent his only Son into the world so we might live through him. This is the kind of love we are talking about—not that we once upon a time loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to clear away our sins and the damage they’ve done to our relationship with God.

My dear, dear friends, if God loved us like this, we certainly ought to love each other. No one has seen God, ever. But if we love one another, God dwells deeply within us, and his love becomes complete in us—perfect love!”

~ I John 4:7-12 MSG

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