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Two Really Good Forgivers

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I saw a quote not long ago that read:

“Marriage is made up of two really good forgivers.”

No truer words were ever spoken, I mused to myself.  My husband and I will celebrate our 19th wedding anniversary this June and we can certainly attest to this.  We’ve shared some thrilling experiences together, but we’ve also endured some pretty fierce trials.  But, that’s life, isn’t it?  God has always been at the helm of this ship called marriage, and with His help, we’ve grown immensely.  I think we’d both agree that it was during the darkest nights that our relationship was strengthened.  When we didn’t have the answers to life’s questions, it was then that we not only cried out to God for help, but also turned to each other for strength.

No genuine, lasting relationship is without opportunity to forgive.  Men and women are so different.  And, we are created to be so.  We view the world differently.  We view our family differently.  We’re just polar opposites.  Sometimes just realizing this can eliminate so many arguments.  Too often, I think, we slip into the mindset that our spouse should view life through identical lenses when God created us to be unique individuals.  This is what keeps life fresh and exciting.  So, instead of warring against our differences, we really must learn to celebrate them!  They are the key components of what attracts our spouse to us to begin with.

The first cousin to forgiveness is humility and this is a godly character trait we must learn to cultivate in our relationships, especially our marriages.  Sometimes it’s difficult to admit fault in a situation, but when we learn to humble ourselves and apologize, we open ourselves to experience grace.  God always rewards a humble attitude and your relationship with your spouse will grow because of it.  When we value our relationship enough to invest humility and forgiveness, it will yield endless returns.

I Corinthians 13 says that love keeps no record of wrongs and we would be wise to adhere to this standard.  It will serve you and your relationship well.  Forgive.  No, it doesn’t let the other person “off the hook”, but it does free you up on the inside and allows God to work in your relationship.  I challenge you today to let it go.  Let it all go.  The petty and trivial stuff, the big stuff…all of the baggage.  Just dump it at the foot of the Cross.  The peace of God will flood your soul and your spirit will be much lighter.  Focus on the big picture.  And pray.  Pray not only for your spouse and changes that you might like to see, but pray for yourself as well.  Ask God to make you the spouse He designed you to be … loving, devoted, forgiving, supportive and one who is sold out for Christ!

 “And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.” ~ Mark 11:25

 

 

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It’s Nailed to the Cross

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Is there a nagging sin that condemns you every time it flashes in your mind?  We’ve all made decisions we wish we never did.  Hindsight is always 20/20.

“There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

 For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.” ~ Romans 8:1-2

For many years, satan taunted me with a particular personal failure.  And, I fell for the bait, hook, line and sinker…every time!  For decades.  Doesn’t that sound like a complete and utter waste of time?  It was!

The truth is, is that none of us can go back in time and make different choices.  There is no rewind button.  But, sometimes we do need to press the fast forward button and focus on making wise choices today, leaving the past at the foot of the Cross.

We must embrace the grace that Jesus so freely offers and truly grasp its power to cover all our sins.  When we don’t forgive ourselves, we are in essence rejecting the finished work of the Cross.  It is one of the devil’s greatest ploys in the Christian’s life.

“And the great dragon was cast out, that old serpent, called the Devil, and Satan, which deceiveth the whole world: he was cast out into the earth, and his angels were cast out with him.

 And I heard a loud voice saying in heaven, Now is come salvation, and strength, and the kingdom of our God, and the power of his Christ: for the accuser of our brethren is cast down, which accused them before our God day and night.

And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death.”

If we are consumed with guilt over past sin that we’ve repented of, we are rendered ineffective in our Christian witness.  God wants us whole in every area of our lives.  His will is not that we merely walk in victory in 50% or 75% of our lives, but that we experience 100% victory over sin!  Receive that today, friend.

 “Oh, what joy for those
    whose disobedience is forgiven,
    whose sins are put out of sight.
  Yes, what joy for those
    whose record the Lord has cleared of sin.”  ~ Romans 4:7-8

God loved us so much that He sent Jesus to die on a cruel Cross to stand in our place.  Jesus bore the consequences of our past sin and every sin that we will ever commit.  That’s is a liberating thought, isn’t it?

“Once you were dead because of your disobedience and your many sins.  You used to live in sin, just like the rest of the world, obeying the devil—the commander of the powers in the unseen world.  He is the spirit at work in the hearts of those who refuse to obey God. All of us used to live that way, following the passionate desires and inclinations of our sinful nature. By our very nature we were subject to God’s anger, just like everyone else.

But God is so rich in mercy, and he loved us so much,  that even though we were dead because of our sins, he gave us life when he raised Christ from the dead. (It is only by God’s grace that you have been saved!)  For he raised us from the dead along with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms because we are united with Christ Jesus. So God can point to us in all future ages as examples of the incredible wealth of his grace and kindness toward us, as shown in all he has done for us who are united with Christ Jesus.

God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God. Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it.  For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” ~ Ephesians 2:1-10

So, the next time the enemy of our souls attempts to bring condemnation and guilt because of past sin, just tell him it was nailed to the Cross more than 2,000 years ago.

 

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