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When Heaven is Silent


Have you ever prayed about something near and dear to your heart for a long time and all your spirit hears are crickets?  Yeah, me too.  It’s times like those that it is easy to believe two lies:  1.)  God doesn’t hear us.  or 2.)  God chooses not to answer.

When I’m feeling spiritually weak, I am prone to believe one or both of these lies.

The Bible says that we walk by faith, not by sight, right? I’m so glad our spiritual walk is based on what the Bible says and not on how we feel or what we see.

“And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us:

And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.” ~ I John 5:14-15

Over the course of my life, I have prayed countless prayers.  Some have taken years before I saw the answers come to fruition.  That just makes the answer that much more sweet.  Ah, the delays.  Why the delays?  We may never know this side of heaven but what we do know is that God wants us to pray, expecting that we will receive.

“Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” ~ Hebrews 4:16

Probably my favorite parable of all is that of the widow and the unjust judge.  She kept beseeching his help and finally because this widow was relentless – She would NOT give up – The judge granted her request!  (lest she weary him)  I love this because it illustrates the power of standing firm in prayer, never giving up – no matter what!  Tenacious praying!

“And he spake a parable unto them to this end, that men ought always to pray, and not to faint;

Saying, There was in a city a judge, which feared not God, neither regarded man:

And there was a widow in that city; and she came unto him, saying, Avenge me of mine adversary.

And he would not for a while: but afterward he said within himself, Though I fear not God, nor regard man;

Yet because this widow troubleth me, I will avenge her, lest by her continual coming she weary me.

And the Lord said, Hear what the unjust judge saith.

And shall not God avenge his own elect, which cry day and night unto him, though he bear long with them?

I tell you that he will avenge them speedily. Nevertheless when the Son of man cometh, shall he find faith on the earth?” ~ Luke 18:1-8

Now, God does not have the attitude of this unjust judge, but rather, Jesus was drawing a contrast to our heavenly Father.  If this was the response of the unjust judge, what do you think the response of our Abba Father would be when one of His children calls?

I recently received a glimpse of the beginnings of an answer to one of my heart’s cries and I was indeed humbled once again.  Humbled because it showed me that despite my faith, maybe sometimes I doubt whether God is working behind the scenes.

Just because we cannot see the manifestation of the object of our prayer does not mean there isn’t movement!

It is possible that some answers to prayer may not be visible or made known to us during our lifetime.  It may be that future realities will be born out of today’s prayer.  And these realities may be birthed long after we are gone.  That should give us cause to pray even more fervently because I do not believe that prayers die.  I believe that God remembers our petitions to throne of grace and that He will cause His perfect will to be accomplished.  But the vehicle for this to be carried out is prayer.  In this regard, I believe prayer is a great legacy.

So, don’t give up on those prayers that are near to your heart, my friend.  God knows.  He hears.  He sees your tears and knows the cry of your heart.

“Rejoice evermore.   Pray without ceasing.  In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” ~ I Thessalonians 5:16-18


Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” ~ James 5:16






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What Kind of Clothes Are You Wearing?

Your choice of outward clothing speaks volumes about your inward character.  But, that’s not the clothing I want to focus on presently.

 “Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.”  ~ Colossians 3:12

Are you wearing mercy?  What about kindness?  Can it be said of you that you display humility?  Practice gentleness?  Are you patient?

What is mercy anyway?  Doesn’t it have to do with withholding punishment when wronged?  Extending grace when a penalty is due?

We all enjoy being with those who are kind, don’t we?  They are the type of people who just ooze love from their very pores.  Are we ourselves that kind of people?

Humility is a “modest opinion of oneself” according to Merriam-Webster.  Or do we tend to think more highly of ourselves than we ought?

Gentleness.  Proverbs 15:1 says that a gentle answer deflects anger.  Can that be said of us?  That we have a calm spirit or do our words stir up strife?  Maybe we need to pause for a moment and then respond.

Patience is a virtue, we all know, but somehow its application is elusive at times.  Do we bear with one another?  When we see an area of weakness in another, do we extend a little extra grace or patience?  We would want the same treatment from others, wouldn’t we?

This character assessment is in no way condemning.  No.  Instead, we can turn it into a prayer, particularly in areas of weakness.

How will we be an effective witness for Christ?  By displaying not only His love, but mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.  Genuine agape love (“The God kind of love”) encompasses all of these characteristics.

Prayer:  “Dear God, thank you for your extravagant love for me.  Because of your love, I am free to love those around me.  Please help me to be loving, merciful, kind, humble, gentle and patient.  Without your power, I can do nothing; but with your strength and power, I can be everything you want me to be.  In Jesus’ Wonderful Name, Amen.”


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Thursdays with Dad

It’s always an adventure when I take my Dad for his various Dr. appts.  There’s usually some “nugget of humor” that makes me laugh for days.  Take, for instance, when he mentioned something about an upcoming appt. with the pediatrician…Just let that sink in for a moment.  I’m pretty sure there aren’t any pediatricians in town that would care to see a 77 year old man.  😉  Just sayin’.  He meant another specialist that begins with the letter “P” – podiatrist.  If he only mixed it up once, that would have been one thing, but he repeated it a number of times throughout the day.  Oh my.  I’ve learned to let things ride unless correcting him really matters.

Two weeks ago I took him for his echocardiogram at the cardiologist office.  I signed his name on the clip board and told him I’d return in thirty minutes.  I figured he’d be okay since it’s just a routine test.  Apparently the technician asked him who his primary care Dr. is.  To which he replied with the name of the cardiologist.  She said, “No, the Dr. you go to when you get sick”, thinking that would prompt him to offer the correct response.  My Dad, ever the comedian, says slowly and deliberately, “I don’t get sick.”  At this juncture, I would have paid to be a fly on the wall, just to see the facial expression of this poor technician.  Haha.  He finally told the technician the name of his primary care, but it wasn’t without a little verbal dance.

Ah, Dad.  Ya gotta love him.

For all of his “fuzzy” moments, I bear in mind, I have my own.  He’s actually pretty sharp most days.  For instance, the other day we were discussing some past event, and he says, “Oh yeah, it was on a Tuesday.”  And it happened like three years ago!  How he recalls tidbits of information like that, I will never know.  I do well to know the current day of the week!

I know where I get my neatnik qualities from,  though.  It’s definitely his fault.  Haha.  He likes things organized.  Recently, he sorted through his dresser and gave me a huge trash bag full of tshirts and other clothes he wanted me to take to a charity.  He doesn’t really care for anyone to come in and clean because he doesn’t want his things to be out of place.  🙂

Last Thursday, he was in and out of the lab in no time flat, which was wonderful.  Then we were off to our favorite French cafe for breakfast.  He deferred to me as he knows I prefer it over the usual breakfast restaurant he likes.  Or maybe I’m winning him over!  Imagine that!

In between our errands, I had to swing by my house to pick up my 16 year old daughter and take her to work.  We also picked up my 14 year old son, who is a huge help with groceries and lifting baskets of laundry for me, etc.  I noticed that my son is nearly as tall as his 6’1″ Grandpa as we were getting out of the SUV at the grocery store, so I snapped a quick picture of the two of them.  Last outing, I also took a picture of the two of them as they’d just gotten nice hair cuts.  It’s neat to see the bond they share and I like to take regular pictures to remember these days.

Some days juggling errands and appointments with my Dad and my duties as a wife and mom are challenging.  Fortunately, my husband was able to pick our daughter up from work as I wasn’t sure I’d make it there in time due to heavy traffic on the way home.  Somehow we make it work, though.

During our days together, I try to find the peace and joy in the little things.  I also try to be patient and understanding.  When we’re out and about, it’s interesting how many younger (and not so younger) folks don’t understand that seniors require a little extra time and understanding when performing even simple tasks.  I grew up to respect those older than myself.

They say – “Be patient with the very young and very old, for one day, you will have been both.”


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